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For a year and a half, I (the ENFP male) was dating an ESFJ (female). I broke it off. However, I've been recently reconsidering getting back. Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, ENFP's natural partner is the INTJ, or the INFJ. ENFP's dominant function. When it comes to dating and relationships, we all want to find someone who is The most compatible personality types for ENFP are INTJ and INFJ. ESFJ: The ESFJs can get extremely pessimistic and discouraged under.
High risk of leaving you to go find their authentic self often located in Argentina, Bali, the Dolomite mountains, etc.
Sees you in an incredible, artistic light that will transform the way you see yourself for the better. Unprecedented balance of deeply insightful and hopelessly goofy. Is sometimes writing the story of your relationship in their head and upset that you are not properly following the script.
Cries whenever they see a picture of two animals hugging. Talking to them for five minutes is like taking a drug that makes you see everything differently and experience reality in a fun new way. Said drug cannot be overdosed on. Very self-sufficient and not needy. Might forget they are a human for days at a time while researching, meditating, gaming, etc.
Has eight million solutions to your problem before you even finish explaining it. Maps out an exciting new life course every six months, making it hard for the relationship to grow stagnant.
Forgets you exist while in the throes of a new project.
Then remembers you exist and is very, very excited about it. Makes a lot of elaborate plans with you, then changes them without warning. Makes you feel like the most adored person on earth. Transforms life into a giant, non-stop adventure.
Makes everything seem accessible and possible. Texts you times in a row. Is never not loudly singing show tunes. Is as calming as sitting by the ocean and watching the waves roll in. Is unexpectedly witty, adventurous, committed and paradoxical in the most enticing way.
Hard to get to know once located. Turns you into artwork. So fun they should be illegal. Tackles problems and makes your life a thousand times easier. Tells it like it is, then makes it better. You may get whiplash trying to keep track of them.
Extremely self-sufficient and capable.
The absolute chillest of the chill. Kind of like an encyclopedia, but a fun one you can take on adventures. Has a tendency to disappear for days or weeks at a time. If disappearing episodes are restricted, grumpiness levels rise. Is hard-pressed to commit to literally anything. Shakes the foundation of your worldview in an affirming way. A lot of unresolved existential dread. Basically a walking affirmation machine. If they are not paired with a partner who enjoys new experiences, or who shares their idealistic enthusiasm, the ENFP may become bored.
The ENFP who is bored and who is not focused will be very unhappy, and will eventually "leave" the relationship if the problem is not addressed. Since relationships are central to the ENFP's life, they will be very "hands on" and involved with their intimate relationships.
They may be in the habit of constantly asking their partner how they're doing, what they're feeling, etc. This behavior may be a bit smothering, but it also supports a strong awareness of the health or illness of the relationship.
Their rich fantasy world makes them fun and creative lovers, who usually have new ideas up their sleeves. They whole-heartedly embrace the opportunity for closeness with their mates, believing sexual intimacy to be a positive, fun way to express how much you love each other.
The ENFP needs to be given positive assurance and affirmation. More than one ENFP has been known to "go fishing" for compliments. They like to hear from their significant others that they are loved and valued, and are willing and eager to return the favor.
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They enjoy lavishing love and affection on their mates, and are creative and energetic in their efforts to please. The ENFP gets a lot of their personal satisfaction from observing the happiness of others, and so is generally determined to please and serve their partners. A problem area for ENFPs in relationships is their dislike of conflict and sensitivity to criticism. They are perfectionists who believe that any form of criticism is a stab at their character, which is very difficult for them to take.
Conflict situations are sources of extreme stress to the ENFP. They have a tendency to brush issues under the rug rather than confront them head-on, if there is likely to be a conflict. They are also prone to "give in" easily in conflict situations, just to end the conflict.
They might agree to something which goes against their values just to end the uncomfortable situation. In such cases, the problem is extended and will return at a later time. The ENFP needs to realize that conflict situations are not the end of the world.
They are entirely normal, and can be quite helpful for the growth of a relationship. They also need to work on taking criticism for what it is, rather than blowing up any negative comment into an indictment against their entire character. Generally, the ENFP is a warm and affirming creature who is very interested and able to have an intense, meaningful, close relationship with their mate.
How did we arrive at this?
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Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable. There's a bit of grown-up kid in every ENFP, so they get a lot of fun and enjoyment from playing with their children.
However, they consider it essential to pass their strongly-held values and beliefs down to their children, and will strive consistently to create a positive, ideal environment for their children's growth. The ENFP may exhibit an inconsistency in their roles with their children.
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At one moment, they might be their child's best friend, laughing and whooping it up, and in the next moment they may appear the stern authoritarian. This inconsistency seems to be a result of a conflict between the ENFP's genuine desire to relate to their children on the children's level, and their compulsion to follow their deeply-felt value system.
In other words, the ENFP wants to be their child's friend, but if a value is violated, they will revert to the parental role to make sure their children understand the violation. This inconsistency may be confusing and frustrating for the children. They usually value their children as individuals, allowing them room for growth. The ENFP's enthusiasm and affection may at times seem smothering to their children. This will be especially true for children with strong Thinking or Sensing preferences, who will have a difficult time understanding the effervescence of the ENFP, and will feel at times embarassed by the ENFP's enthusiasm and tendency to display their affection publicly.
The ENFP is able to take care of day-to-day necessities, such as picking children up at the correct times, getting them to softball practice, getting them fed, etc.